Ray Howard • LICSW •

IFS-I Approved Clinical Consultant 

Three Unblending Techniques

Externalizing Right Hand Left Hand The Table Technique Look Into My Eyes These three skills work well as a logical progression from a simple unblending exercise with right hand, left hand to the Table Technique, which involves more parts, to Look Into My Eyes, which...

Working with Polarizations: Case Example

We’re always working with polarizations in IFS.  Always.  Working with polarizations is complex and we need to always recall that multiple parts present.  It’s much more realistic to see our client’s as having multiple teams of parts that work in concert to keep pain...

The Mini-Pause Unblend

I’d like to tell you about an IFS micro-intervention that I use in my practice with individuals, couples, and as an IFS informed consultant.  It’s called Mini-Pause Unblend.  It was developed by IFS lead trainer, Cece Sykes.  The Mini-Pause Unblend is a simple,...

I Hear You, I Feel You, I See You

This is an IFS based meditation that I developed in my private practice.  I lead this meditation for all of the individuals and couples I see at the top of every clinical hour.  I provide this on my website for clients who might find it helpful between sessions, and...

Look Into My Eyes

This is an unblending exercise I learned from Mike Elkin in my level 2 IFS training in 2008.  My parts love this exercise.  My parts are visual and they love being able to show me what they look like and they love being seen at critical developmental thresholds. This...