IFIO Couple Psychotherapy

Using Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Intimacy from the Inside Out (IFIO) founded by Toni Herbine-Blank, I help couples navigate the emotional patterns that drive their interactions, fostering a deeper connection and a renewed sense of partnership.

Whether you’re looking to heal past wounds, improve communication, or simply strengthen your relationship, therapy provides a safe and supportive space to grow together.

In IFS couple therapy, IFIO—Intimacy from the Inside Out (developed by Toni Herbine-Blank), we focus on the repetitive cycle that all couples engage in. 

The U-Turn is the first step toward change in IFIO couple therapy.

During this phase of therapy, I serve as a parts detector and help each member of the couple pause to notice and connect to and listen to their parts and to move away from blaming their partners. 

This allows protective parts for both members of a couple to soften and step back. 

In addition to the U-Turn, I teach couples Courageous Communication, the IFIO relational skill in which we use two IFS skills in close proximity. 

First, we pause to listen for our parts, then we speak for parts. This slows our internal process, and, critically, preserves our attachment to the part. This helps parts stay calm, clear, compassionate, connected, and confident, and helps us speak for our experience in a non-threatening way.

With practice, both members of the couple remain connected to their own experience and they’re able to see their partner’s experience differently.

Couples Session Info:

90min per session

(Extended sessions up to 1 hr 45 min)

$225 per hour

Email: rayhoward@ifsacc.com